Two sides of a story!

After being a litigation lawyer for the past 7 years, I realised.... many contentious matter in court are due to misunderstanding, from a minor misunderstanding, it has rolled and rolled and rolled and has turned to be a major misunderstanding... each party's lawyer only gets one side of the story, which is their client's story.  The procedure however, will leads us all to disclose facts and particulars at one stage of the matter, which is when the case is almost reach the trial date... and only then, both parties lawyers will have a full picture of what's going on and how to advice their clients to settle instead of going to full trial.  Of course, some lawyer will stick on and rather go for full trial as it will cost more.  But that's generally, not how I practice.  I usually try to help my clients to solve their 'problem' instead of argue until the end and get broke (hence I am not a very 'good' lawyer and people says, I 'spoil' the market).  

I remember a year or 2 ago, people has been hearing nothing from me nor seeing me, but rumours about me, was travels as far as England, UK, Australia, New Zealand... etc. etc. Just like an international news, .... most of those who knows me well, know that the rumours WERE and remain as rumours and it's nothing true. Those we believes, ... I can only say, they are as 'fake' as those who spread the rumours. There are always 2 sides of 1 story, or sometimes, more than 2.  Even in a murder case, ... there's always another side of the story, hence, provocation, insanity, intoxication, could be one of the defence for murder.  When one manage to raise any of those, sentence will be reduced.  i.e.  it is a way to say, their action is reasonable in certain degree.  Hence, from a lawyer's point of view, I won't believe in one side of the story.  Even judges wants to listen to both sides of the story to make their judgment and decision.  Witnesses will be called, evidence will be tendered/admitted, etc.  Even with witnesses seeing things happen, without them knowing what make the person has such reaction, will only means, there's actus reas, ... 

A friend recently told me she had a big argument with her husband and she admitted, sometimes... it's her that caused him to get angry.  She agrees that, sometimes, it is people who made us goes insane and reacted differently.  Hence, the cause, the what lawyer calls, the law of causation is important.  I remember hitting a friend as young as I was in primary 4 because he teased me so badly that I ended up hitting him a few times until he stops.  I call that provocation.  It doesn't matter how good or bad you can control your mind.  Everyone has a limit.  You won't get angry with certain things, doesn't mean I can handle that.  When I said, "stop shouting at me".  I means it and you don't need to see how far I can go in order for you to make a stop in it.  If warning is given, just stop doing it.  You don't need to know the history behind.  All you need to do when you are given warning is to stop shouting.  

So, what's with Pastor Kong Hee and Bishop Vun? Are you hearing one side of the story or all sides? I don't know.  I am not going to judge too.  I am just feeling sad that sometimes, because we did not legalised 'good intention', ... things turned out badly.  Is 2/3 agreement on AGM or EGM is good enough? Are these documented properly? I am sad not because of what they did.  I am sad because many see them a 'model' and not Jesus.  No will take Jesus seriously anymore... all see churches, leaders.... etc. as their example, their model ... it's sad.  Now, are you seeing a different direction and 'side' of this story?

I really hope there's less and less people judging... but more people who work for Him.... 

-Two sides of a story! -