I am doing a research since a few days ago and I was stucked. Hence, I started my day with the research today as the hearing is tomorrow. As I was doing my research, my boss walked in and we chatted for a while on the same case and we were talking about the responsibility of a man towards his wife while his wife is still alive. As the conversation continues, the issue of vow came into my mind.
Many born having the thought that, marriage is part of the life and therefore, man is seeking for a women to show that they are successful in life as the important piece of 'element' in life is not missing and women, claims seeking to find their true love, one who love them and one who will be there to provide for their needs when they need it (hence, many arguments arosed when the man is not sensitive enought to know the needs of a women), etc. etc.
Somehow, many have not known the seriousness of the meaning of vow. Feeling is what many lies upon in a relationship and/or a marraige. Hence, sex is what many focus on. Due to the more relax view of sex in the world at this generation, many have thought, divorce, re-married, affairs, adultery are just fine.
As I was reading a few cases that I found this morning, I was reminded of the family law subject I took during my degree level (don't ask me why I choose to do that the subject though), where the issue of 'responsibility' was told by my lecturer. If you notice, from all the movies, series you have watched, you probably realised that women always have the rights to claim maintenance from the husband but it never possible the other way round. So to say, man has the financial responsibility towards their wife and children. No wonder many want to find a rich husband. hahahaha.... Well, I am not sure if this is one of the issue you will consider before you get into a relationship or you get into relationship merely on the basis that you love him/her.
I must say, I am working on a case where I try to claim any penny/sen (a rightful claim) towards a husband who because of another women, wanted to escape his responsibility towards his own wife. His claim however, is that he has 'paid' enough for the past 30 over years over their marriage. I am sure he has forgotten above the vow he/she made. Instead, they claimed they are in this 'new age' generation and therefore, they want a more 'open' way.
May I remind you. The vow you are about to take in future (if you have not make it yet), will be witnessed not only by the priest but also by all your friends and relatives and the vow you are making is your responsbility towards the other party for the rest of YOUR life. Not the other party's life. Hello? Do you understand this correctly? Yes... it is YOUR own responsibility towards the other party for the rest of YOUR own life.
I don't like cases on divorce petition, be it joint divorce petition or contested divorce petition. This particular one, I found is ridiculous when I was serving this Summons In Chambers to the respondent (the husband) where his new companion scolded me terribly saying that his wife (the petitioner) is unreasonable in her claim for maintenance as the respondent had already took care of her for the past 30 over years.
Due to what she mentioned, she actually gave me an idea. A better idea... to make a claim not only on what I already claiming, but also claim for EVERYTHING that my client (the petitioner) could. If the respondent think he has the right to escape his responsibility, he is WRONG. A man does not take a wife to shown how "successful" they are, or a man doesn't take a many wives to show how "successful" and "capable" he is. Do think of your responsibility towards your wife.
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